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  • Communication Around The Table

    Thanksgiving is coming. People are sharing concerns about how to speak with relatives of different political views or how not to speak with them at all.

    Friends wonder how to have a conversation without branching into troublesome territory.

    The known or understood has become fragile.

    Even conversations with people of like mind can be tricky. Some want to avoid subjects because emotions may run high and may trigger their own emotions that haven’t yet been figured out.

    So, what does one do?

    Here are a few thoughts:

    • Love is love- coming together with family or friends can be framed simply with love. We are together. Let’s find each other in our mutual care
    • Holidays can be difficult no matter what, so create an intention of what will work for you this holiday and choose your roadmap.
    • For example, setting a goal, a tone, or a desired mood for oneself can help keep difficulties at bay.
    • Know when it is time to take a break from festivities or conversations and get out in nature or find a yoga class. Focus on self-care.
    • Some families have creative traditions. Doing something together is often the best remedy. If not a tradition, an outing, or cooking or baking together.

    When it comes to those potentially difficult conversations take a breath, step back (inside yourself), and decide who you are and how you want to show up.

    • That may mean saying, “I’m taking the day off from complicated (you choose your phrase) concerns and focusing on relaxing together.” Then, possibly suggest an activity or a new topic.
    • You may choose to embark on the conversational journey and agree to disagree.
    • You may choose to embark, and if emotions start to rise even when in agreement, you may comment on a method you’ve found that helps you feel better or more neutral.For example, “I don’t know about you, but I have found that when I get really upset, I just end up feeling worse.” “I’ve been trying to catch myself and take a breath, feel my feet on the ground, and remember I’m OK in this moment, and it helps me feel better.”

    Whatever you choose I wish you a lovely Thanksgiving weekend.

    Quick tip:

    What is your goal for the day?

    Remember to have a focus.

    The people you are with are yours to cherish if you choose.

    Love is a guidepost.

    Want some additional help with those complicated conversations? Click the Let’s Talk button below.

    Wishing you easy conversations and intentional self-care.

     

     

    With Love,
    Liz

    What is it About Hope?!?

    I have found lately that HOPE is palpable.

    What is it? Why is it such a strong force?

    How does it show up in our lives?

    I can only speak to my realizations and those of some of my clients and friends but really… I picked up the newspaper today and I saw hope.

    The kid who turned away from school and later became a rapper teacher is now helping millions of kids rap-learn subjects that were previously unreachable, and they are loving it!

    Saturday, The New York Times August 24, 2024. “His Alter Ego Is Excited About Education”

    I see movies like “Inside Out” and “Inside Out 2” that help explain to even our youngest citizens what in the world goes on in our emotional lives and a few ways to get it under control. Yahoo!

    Sunday, The New York Times, August 11, 2024 “How Pixar Helped Change Therapy”

    I see and hear people shifting their consciousness from desperation and divisiveness born out of fear to hope and a belief in the possibility that comes with naming what is good in all of us and working together to fix what isn’t.

    Because of hope.

    No matter what the personal belief system is, hope allows us all to find something good and true.

    I hate to belabor the COVID experience but mine interested me because it was like having a dark cloud hanging over me for a while.

    It seems like a dark cloud has been hanging over our society for a while.

    What I noticed when it began to lift was that I hadn’t known just how gloomy it was. It was like having a gray filter in front of my eyes and then suddenly it cleared. I could see the sun.

    It felt that way today as I listened to people speaking, read the newspaper, and saw a different bounce in people’s steps.

    A new energy seems to be taking hold in people’s interest and participation in our country.

    Hope.

    I’m glad the fog is lifting enough to see some sunlight. Hope is a great energizer.

    If you want to explore how to accelerate your hope let’s talk! Click here to schedule a call!

    Why Tenderness

    What happens when we add the idea of tenderness into our daily lives, our random conversations, our moments of huffing and puffing over something that may or may not be worthy of huffing and puffing?

    I was speaking with a client the other day who gave me permission to share our conversation. She was recounting an experience of becoming angry because she noticed a large number of invasive species trees and shared that she found herself agitated and speaking emotionally about it while a passenger on a drive. Actually, getting quite worked up.  

    Well, long story short, the anger was at the people who planted the trees and the frustration that the trees were doing harm to other vegetation. 

    The idea of tenderness came up because employing the concept helped settle the emotions down and brought a realization around how bad it felt to get so worked up.

    Often when emotions get high and are negative in some way, it feels terrible, but we are so busy emoting we miss that we are creating our own suffering.

    We had fun with this conversation because the idea of tenderness also led to the idea of compassion. Those poor trees- they were simply planted and didn’t deserve all that negativity. 

    Who knows? Maybe they actually were the perfect plant to be living in that area. Some years from now, given global warming, they may bring something absolutely necessary to the changing ecosystem.

    The people who were being maligned because they planted them… they are actually not part of the car ride equation. But… self-compassion is part of the equation; tenderness to self… especially when it becomes clear that the only person suffering is the person feeling all the negative emotions and, in this case, possibly the driver.

    We took it further.  What is the difference between expressing irritation, anger, rage out into the world and expressing neutrality, kindness, compassion, or tenderness?

    Do we want to feed the negativity and blame, that has become pervasive in large expressions of frustration and anger in our society, or do we want to grow ease, care, compassion?

    What if we all tried a little tenderness?

    Click here for a different kind of car ride – enjoy!

    It’s Official

     

    It’s official! The equinox has helped us cross the threshold into Spring. 

    Let’s send up new shoots. Get rid of the old dried-up leaves and twigs. Open a fresh eye on the world. Let the still small voice that knows there is something emerging get a bit louder.

    All of us feel a bit dug under sometimes. The world has been a chaotic place at times and then a turn of the head or a new fresh day brings order, new hope or even a monumental change in point of view.

    It’s time to clear out, refresh, take a look at what isn’t feeling right and tweak it until it does. 

    I’ve been struck by the resilience I’ve been witnessing in all parts of the world. We are amazing. Every one of us. 

    Recently I made a major move, healed from a serious illness, and continued stepping forward on the journey…  being present and ready for what’s next. 

    I believe all of us are making our way. We step over rocks, climb bigger mountains, and take our next steps. If we are paying attention, we create meaning.  

    Times of seasonal transition are perfect to take a fresh look. Yesterday I cleared a bunch of dead plants away and cut back the ones that could be saved.  Suddenly there was possibility of new life. I love to see that shift and recognize that we are the shift. We just have to pay attention. 

    That’s when I take a fresh look at what is happening in my life, what is happening around me, where I’m putting my focus and why.

    We are multifaceted beings, so underlying the activities we are doing are the thoughts and feelings we have about them. 

    Here are a few questions to get the ball rolling:

    • What do the (activities) mean to us? 
    • What importance do they hold in our lives? 
    • What are the benefits or the drawbacks? 
    • Are they essential or can they be removed?

    Sometimes it is good to sort out where we are putting our attention. Sometimes what’s important is to stop a moment and breathe.

    Take stock of all that is happening; what you are feeling emotionally and physically; what you are thinking… and see if there is a need for a different point of view or a different course of action with whatever is in the forefront of your days.

    Often, a change in focus opens up a completely different feeling about what comes next. 

    Spring is the ideal time to take the next step to accelerate YOUR next step.

    Choose the inspired life you want to live.

    Click here for a guided imagery to take a moment of pause to imagine your next steps. 

     

    How to Make an Inspired Choice

    So many people have experienced change over the past year – myself included. From scary medical procedures to moving cities. So how do we all remain resilient in the midst of major upheaval whether it is personal, familial, governmental, or cultural?

    For me, and what I teach all my clients – coaching, psychotherapy, and corporate – is that when we begin to feel like a leaf in the wind, we are sunk. That’s not the good part, the meaty part. That is the human condition. So, what to do about it? Here’s a tip that is part of my QPT® (Quantum Presence Technique) process and is a quick way to get centered.

    1. Breathe and put your attention on your feet.

    That’s what I do, and that’s what I teach because it’s impossible to handle any stress, big or small, if you are not present in your body. Putting your attention on your feet and breathing is a shortcut to getting back to home base- You, your own body.

    Emotion follows thought.

    Have you ever noticed that when you have a seed, just a little seed of information that is or could be true, suddenly the brain is off and running with a story about it? Depending on your inclination that could be scary or wonderful. Either way, it is just a story.

    It is not true because it has not happened. You notice I didn’t say “happened yet”. That’s because there is no yet under these circumstances. We actually have no idea what is going to happen.

    When we are present in our bodies, we are not being run wild by our thoughts and the emotions that follow our storyline. We can actually make a clear choice about who we are and what we want to choose to feel and do in the moment.

    2. Make an Inspired Choice

    What makes an inspired choice? The first is step is # 1 above. When you are experiencing presence, full embodiment, you are connected mind, body, spirit, and heart. You realize that you are safe in this moment and that you have come into your body fully with your attention and your breath. You may have a sense of solidity, of feeling grounded, connected to the earth. It comes from having made the decision to be still and notice that gravity is holding you steady. Your intention is all you need to experience the pause that allows you to make choices from your true self, unimpaired by extraneous thoughts.

    From this position you can activate the ‘you’ ‘you know is there. The ‘you’ that is not a leaf in the wind. The ‘you’ that you can depend on. It is the same ‘you’ that you’ve depended on when making important decisions, helping someone in crises. All aspects of you working together to take your next step. That is how an inspired choice is made.

    Try it. Let me know what happens. Is there more to this? Of course, but this is a great place to start.

    For a bit more guidance, click the video below: